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Toko-pa on Invitational presence

Posted on March 25, 2019 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

Beautiful description of therapeutic relationship…and indeed relationship… Here’s the wording for anyone who has trouble following Facebook links:- “Whether we are looking to create closeness with others, with nature, or with the living mystery, an invitational presence is the prerequisite … Continue reading →

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Small Gods – Martin Shaw

Posted on October 22, 2018 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

http://drmartinshaw.com/essays/ Click on the link above for another powerful piece from Martin. Here’s a taste:- ‘Once upon a time there was a lonely hunter. One evening, returning to his hut over the snow, he saw smoke coming from his chimney. … Continue reading →

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Toko-pa on listening with presence

Posted on December 5, 2015 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

The heart of person-centred… Beautiful artwork too. Palace Gate Counselling Service, Exeter Counselling in Exeter since 1994

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How America’s Culture of Shame is a Killer for Boys – Mark Greene

Posted on April 28, 2015 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

http://goodmenproject.com/featured-content/megasahd-why-americas-culture-of-shame-is-killing-us/ This article by Mark is wonderful, and the writer was crying before the end…Although the title gives a masculine focus, the points made are valid for us all, however we self describe/make sense of gender. This is the second … Continue reading →

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Lao Tsu on the power of listening deeply

Posted on April 18, 2015 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

‘It was as though he listened deeply, and such listening as his enfolds us in silence in which at last we begin to hear what we are meant to be. Lao Tsu Palace Gate Counselling Service, Exeter

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Carl Rogers on being listened to, and being heard

Posted on January 28, 2015 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

“When I have been listened to and when I have been heard, I am able to re-perceive my world in a new way and to go on. It is astonishing how elements that seem insoluble become soluble when someone listens, … Continue reading →

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One Year Writing and Healing: Diane Morrow

Posted on June 4, 2014 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

One Year Writing and Healing: Diane Morrow Click on the title for a lovely blog on the theme of expressive writing as a path into processing and healing grief – this particular post is about our need to communicate our … Continue reading →

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