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Guante ‘Ten Responses to the Phrase ‘Man up”

Posted on December 6, 2016 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

Click on the link above for Guante’s performance of his work on Button Poetry’s Facebook page. Aho. ‘Man up’ belongs in the ‘just don’t say it’ category…. Thanks, Guante, and also to Button Poetry and Angie Buchanan for posting this on Facebook … Continue reading →

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Bell Hooks on patriarchal violence to men

Posted on December 29, 2015 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

“The first act of violence that patriarchy demands of males is not violence toward women. Instead patriarchy demands of all males that they engage in acts of psychic self-mutilation, that they kill off the emotional parts of themselves. If an … Continue reading →

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How Societies with Little Coercion Have Little Mental Illness – Bruce Levine

Posted on August 22, 2015 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

http://brucelevine.net/how-societies-with-little-coercion-have-little-mental-illness/ ‘Coercion—the use of physical, legal, chemical, psychological, financial, and other forces to gain compliance—is intrinsic to our society’s employment, schooling, and parenting. However, coercion results in fear and resentment, which are fuels for miserable marriages, unhappy families, and what … Continue reading →

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The Power of Addiction and The Addiction of Power: Gabor Maté at TEDxRio+20

Posted on October 27, 2014 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

Another wonderful talk from Gabor Maté, this time coming in at a little under 19 minutes. We think he’s bang on, both in terms of what he says about addiction and in terms of the wider implications of this for … Continue reading →

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