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Guante ‘Ten Responses to the Phrase ‘Man up”

Posted on December 6, 2016 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

Click on the link above for Guante’s performance of his work on Button Poetry’s Facebook page. Aho. ‘Man up’ belongs in the ‘just don’t say it’ category…. Thanks, Guante, and also to Button Poetry and Angie Buchanan for posting this on Facebook … Continue reading →

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Bell Hooks on patriarchal violence to men

Posted on December 29, 2015 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

“The first act of violence that patriarchy demands of males is not violence toward women. Instead patriarchy demands of all males that they engage in acts of psychic self-mutilation, that they kill off the emotional parts of themselves. If an … Continue reading →

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Jason Hine on the true essence of the masculine

Posted on October 11, 2015 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

Lovely piece from Jason Hine about masculinity in our existing cultures, and in potentia. Try clicking on the title, but the link here has been problematic so, in case you cannot see it, here is a cut-and-paste! ‘I feel it … Continue reading →

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Woven By Lidia Yuknavitch

Posted on August 8, 2015 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

https://www.guernicamag.com/features/woven/ Stunning piece of writing, by Lidia, weaving folk tale and metaphor around a deeply personal narrative. Don’t miss it. Two themes that comes up regularly in the therapy room and supervision at this service:- how expressive, transformative and healing … Continue reading →

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When Women Wanted Sex Much More Than Men – Alyssa Goldstein

Posted on May 18, 2015 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

http://www.alternet.org/when-women-wanted-sex-much-more-men Click on the link to visit Alternet for Alyssa’s interesting browse through some of the historical and political dimensions of current cultural perceptions of gender/sexuality. Many of these perceptions are profoundly unhelpful and unpleasant:- ‘Women must be convinced, persuaded, … Continue reading →

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Embodying the Dream – Toko-pa Turner

Posted on May 10, 2015 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

Three days after the UK election, here is a lovely gentle 7 minutes from Toko-pa, an excerpt from the film ‘Time is Art’ and part of her theme at the 2014 Synchronicity Symposium. Here she is talking about the ‘dangerous … Continue reading →

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Words – Ruth Stone

Posted on March 5, 2015 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

Words ‘Wallace Stevens says, “A poet looks at the world as a man looks at a woman.” I can never know what a man sees when he looks at a woman. That is a sealed universe. On the outside of … Continue reading →

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Debunking the Myths about Boys and Emotions By Vicki Zakrzewski

Posted on December 3, 2014 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

http://greatergood.berkeley.edu/article/item/debunking_myths_boys_emotions Click on the link for this useful and important piece by Vicki Zakrzewski. Gratitude to Sarah for posting this on her Facebook page and introducing us to it. We notice a lot of subtle (and less subtle) gender prejudice … Continue reading →

Posted in bullying, child development, conditions of worth, cultural questions, Disconnection, education, emotions, empathy, empowerment, equality, external locus, family systems, Gender & culture, growing up, human condition, identity, interconnection & belonging, internal locus of evaluation, loneliness, love, masculine, neuroscience, non-conforming, paradigm shift, parenting, perception, political, power and powerlessness, relationship, research evidence, scapegoating, teaching, therapeutic growth, values & principles, vulnerability, working with clients | Tagged affordable counselling exeter, autonomy, belonging, blame, compassion, conforming, counselling exeter, counsellor Exeter, counsellors Exeter, Deep Secrets, disconnection, educating boys, education, emotional awareness, emotional connection, emotional intelligence, emotional intelligence in men, emotions, empathy, empathy in boys, empathy in men, exclusion, friendship, gender, gender and culture, gender and emotion, gender bias, gender prejudice, Greater Good, I Can Learn From You, interconnection, interdependence, judgement, Judy Chu, loneliness, low cost counselling exeter, masculine, masculine norms, masculinity, Michael Reichert, neuroscience, Niobe Way, oppression, ostracism, Palace Gate Counselling Service, Palace Gate Counselling Service Exeter, person centred counselling exeter, relationship, Richard Hawley, scapegoating, Science of a Meaningful Life, self concept, self sufficiency, separation, social isolation, social pressure, stigma, stigmatising, stigmatizing, stoicism, Vicki Zakrzewski, www.palacegatecounselling.org.uk | Leave a comment

A Letter to my Son about Porn: Harriet Pawson & Cindy Gallop for TED

Posted on February 14, 2014 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

A Letter to my Son about Porn: Harriet Pawson & Cindy Gallop for TED Thanks to Katheryn Trenshaw on Facebook for this link. I have today updated this post in a few respects (1 May 2015). The direct path is … Continue reading →

Posted in acceptance, civil rights, communication, cultural questions, diversity, empathy, empowerment, equality, feminine, Gender & culture, growth, healing, human condition, love, masculine, paradigm shift, parenting, perception, person centred, political, pornography, reality, relationship, sexual being, TED, values & principles | Tagged acceptance, affordable counselling exeter, Cindy Gallop, communication, counselling exeter, counsellor Exeter, counsellors Exeter, cultural context, diversity, empathy, empowerment, equality, ethics, feminine, feminism, gender, gender identity, growth, Harriet Pawson, healing, LGBT, low cost counselling exeter, masculine, Palace Gate Counselling Service, Palace Gate Counselling Service Exeter, paradigm shift, parenting, person centred counselling exeter, person-centred, porn, porn addiction, reality, relationship, sex, sexual being, sexual relationship, TED, transgender, www.palacegatecounselling.org.uk | 2 Comments

‘What if he cries?’

Posted on November 8, 2013 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

What If He Cries? This is a thought-provoking and helpful post written by Rick Belden about feminine response to masculine sadness, grief and pain. I really like his strand about the importance of intuitive connection, and responding from this place, rather … Continue reading →

Posted in empathy, Gender & culture, grief, sadness & pain | Tagged couples, crying, gender, grief, helpful responses to grief, intuition, male, man, masculine, pain, person-centred, relationship, sadness, tears | 2 Comments

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