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Rupi Kaur on confusing anger and kindness

Posted on April 30, 2018 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

“Every time you tell your daughter you yell at her out of love you teach her to confuse anger with kindness which seems like a good idea till she grows up to trust men who hurt her cause they look … Continue reading →

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Elisabeth Kubler-Ross on living while we’re alive

Posted on October 21, 2016 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

“It is not the end of the physical body that should worry us. Rather, our concern must be to live while we’re alive – to release our inner selves from the spiritual death that comes with living behind a facade … Continue reading →

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Rupi Kaur on being & expressing yourself

Posted on October 6, 2016 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

‘you tell me to quiet down cause my opinions make me less beautiful but i was not made with a fire in my belly so i could be put out i was not made with a lightness in my tongue … Continue reading →

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Brené Brown on Living in the Questions

Posted on April 15, 2016 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

http://mariashriver.com/blog/2016/04/prime-book-brene-brown-courage-vulnerability-peter-freed/?utm_source=Current+Users&utm_campaign=6c8a4c7de2-April_8_Send_Out_4_8_2016&utm_medium=email&utm_term=0_53bf79976c-6c8a4c7de2-35203661&mc_cid=6c8a4c7de2&mc_eid=baf214491e Brené talking about what the maturation process has looked like for her… We agree – learning to live in the questions is also what we see unfolding in therapy. Palace Gate Counselling Service, Exeter Counselling in Exeter since 1994 … Continue reading →

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Brené Brown on empathy, compassion and boundaries

Posted on March 13, 2016 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

‘Empathy: if you have done your work and set your boundaries, you can tread that water forever and not get tired. Amen’. Yes. Empathy in the sense Brené is exploring does not deplete us, nor does it sit with our … Continue reading →

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John Rowan on the nature of assuming personal power

Posted on August 24, 2015 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

‘During the process of working with the real self, consciousness changes. The mental ego is mainly either existence-oriented or relationship-oriented. If existence-oriented, then the main concern is with power, mastery and control. If relatedness-oriented, the main concern is with conformity … Continue reading →

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The Rupture of the Mother Line & the Cost of Becoming Real – Bethany Webster

Posted on February 26, 2015 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

http://womboflight.com/2014/12/21/the-rupture-of-the-mother-line-and-the-cost-of-becoming-real/ Fascinating article by Bethany on the mother-daughter relationship, its deeper potential and meanings, and the wounds inflicted by our culture. She explores the feminine journey into realness and wholeness, with mother as initiator or wounded saboteur – and how … Continue reading →

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