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Brené Brown on connection, shame & empathy

Posted on May 19, 2016 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

We have previously posted Brené Brown’s lovely definition of connection, which aligns with our own and is person-centred to its core. It stands repeating:- “I define connection as the energy that exists between people when they feel seen, heard, and … Continue reading →

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Carl Rogers on remembering our humanity

Posted on October 20, 2015 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

“Before every session, I take a moment to remember my humanity. There is no experience that this man has that I cannot share with him, no fear that I cannot understand, no suffering that I cannot care about, because I … Continue reading →

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When Children Lie – Patty Wipfler – Hand in Hand Parenting

Posted on August 26, 2015 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

http://www.handinhandparenting.org/article/when-children-lie/ This is a helpful site, and a helpful article, if you are looking to find effective ways to parent outside the culturally prevalent models of fault, blame and punishment. In the writer’s experience, most parents deeply want what is … Continue reading →

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The Boy in the Closet — How I Lost my Best Friend to a Label by Margaret Altman

Posted on August 16, 2015 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

The Boy in the Closet — How I Lost my Best Friend to a Label ‘Diagnoses such as schizophrenia mask all of the strengths, feelings and talents that individuals possess, The labels can make people’s behavior appear aggressive, when in fact they are … Continue reading →

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John Bradshaw on Community (with some thoughts on person-centred supervision)

Posted on August 14, 2015 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

‘Community is a synthesis between mutuality and individuality. The truer the community, the more solid the individuals within it. To put it another way, people best achieve individuality in a true community and they create a true community only when … Continue reading →

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