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Erich Fromm on the situation of a sane man in an insane culture

Posted on February 4, 2016 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

“A person who has not been completely alienated, who has remained sensitive and able to feel, who has not lost the sense of dignity, who is not yet “for sale”, who can still suffer over the suffering of others, who … Continue reading →

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Gabor Maté on what becomes of the desolate child

Posted on November 4, 2015 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

‘Paul Gillespie still can’t get used to the sounds of crying and pain in the graphic videos of children being raped and molested that he has seen all too often on the Web. “It’s beyond horrible to listen to the … Continue reading →

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Person-centred Basics – Janet Tolan on Labels

Posted on October 2, 2015 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

The third in our occasional series of some person-centred fundamentals. ‘There are many ways of describing people who use services such as housing, education and health. Some of these are also used of counselling clients: this client is “manipulative”, that … Continue reading →

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The nature of the struggle by Fay Honey Knopp

Posted on October 1, 2015 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

“The struggle for most of us has never been whether to continue or give up, but rather: how to lead a life of integrity with the fewest of contradictions in a culture that often devalues, inhibits, negates, or co-opts the … Continue reading →

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When Children Lie – Patty Wipfler – Hand in Hand Parenting

Posted on August 26, 2015 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

http://www.handinhandparenting.org/article/when-children-lie/ This is a helpful site, and a helpful article, if you are looking to find effective ways to parent outside the culturally prevalent models of fault, blame and punishment. In the writer’s experience, most parents deeply want what is … Continue reading →

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How Societies with Little Coercion Have Little Mental Illness – Bruce Levine

Posted on August 22, 2015 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

http://brucelevine.net/how-societies-with-little-coercion-have-little-mental-illness/ ‘Coercion—the use of physical, legal, chemical, psychological, financial, and other forces to gain compliance—is intrinsic to our society’s employment, schooling, and parenting. However, coercion results in fear and resentment, which are fuels for miserable marriages, unhappy families, and what … Continue reading →

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Neurons to Nirvana: Gabor Maté Interview

Posted on August 21, 2015 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

A wide-ranging collection of excerpts from an interview with Gabor Maté, covering addiction, ayahuasca, past experience, transitional states, Western medicine and the mind/body division, and much more besides. As always, he is very watchable and he talks sense. Well worth … Continue reading →

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Human Despair – Dr Gabor Maté

Posted on June 10, 2015 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

Gabor talking about human nature, and our cultures. Compelling, moving and accurate. Palace Gate Counselling Service, Exeter Counselling Exeter since 1994

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Gabor Maté – Toxic Culture, Bioneers Conference 2012

Posted on May 27, 2015 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

‘The birth and death of any phenomena is connected to the birth and death of all other phenomena. The one contains the many, and the many contains the one.’ The Buddha Insightful talk that the ever-watchable Gabor Maté gave at … Continue reading →

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Gabor Maté: On Storytelling, Health, and the Ruling Class, with Ryan Meili

Posted on November 24, 2014 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

http://briarpatchmagazine.com/articles/view/gabor-mate-storytelling Click on the link for Part 2 of this fascinating, wide-ranging interview with Gabor Mate (Part 1 was yesterday’s post). The writer is often struck with the strong links between what Gabor is saying, and person-centred. For example, Rogers … Continue reading →

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