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Mary Oliver on Love & its necessary wildness – Brainpickings

Posted on March 12, 2016 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

Mary Oliver on Love and Its Necessary Wildness Lovely piece, beautiful poems, and a wonderful conversation between Mary and Krista Tippett for On Being – as Maria says ‘feast your soul’. Thank you, as ever, to Maria Popova and Brainpickings. Here’s the book … Continue reading →

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When Children Lie – Patty Wipfler – Hand in Hand Parenting

Posted on August 26, 2015 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

http://www.handinhandparenting.org/article/when-children-lie/ This is a helpful site, and a helpful article, if you are looking to find effective ways to parent outside the culturally prevalent models of fault, blame and punishment. In the writer’s experience, most parents deeply want what is … Continue reading →

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John Rowan on the nature of assuming personal power

Posted on August 24, 2015 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

‘During the process of working with the real self, consciousness changes. The mental ego is mainly either existence-oriented or relationship-oriented. If existence-oriented, then the main concern is with power, mastery and control. If relatedness-oriented, the main concern is with conformity … Continue reading →

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Laurie Penny: The New Statesman – the issue for Europe is not migrants, but creeping fascism

Posted on August 15, 2015 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

http://www.newstatesman.com/politics/2015/08/europe-shouldn-t-worry-about-migrants-it-should-worry-about-creeping-fascism Powerful and accurate piece from Laurie, for which gratitude. ‘There is an urban legend about boiling frogs, and it goes like this. If you put a frog in a pan of cold water and slowly, slowly turn up the … Continue reading →

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John Bradshaw on Community (with some thoughts on person-centred supervision)

Posted on August 14, 2015 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

‘Community is a synthesis between mutuality and individuality. The truer the community, the more solid the individuals within it. To put it another way, people best achieve individuality in a true community and they create a true community only when … Continue reading →

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Toko-pa – Where is my vital edge?

Posted on March 2, 2015 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

http://toko-pa.com/2015/02/26/where-is-my-vital-edge/ Click on the link for Toko-pa’s lovely blog, and this post on walking the line of our ‘vital edge’:- ‘We are both compelled by our wild nature into new forms of living, while also aching for the stability and … Continue reading →

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Oriah Mountain Dreamer on Leaving the limitations of the familiar

Posted on December 8, 2014 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

Click on the link for this picture and quotation on Oriah’s Facebook page. Gratitude to Sarah Gardner for drawing our attention to this. ‘What is risk for one may be easy for another. But sooner or later, the soul will … Continue reading →

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