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Toko-pa on Invitational presence

Posted on March 25, 2019 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

Beautiful description of therapeutic relationship…and indeed relationship… Here’s the wording for anyone who has trouble following Facebook links:- “Whether we are looking to create closeness with others, with nature, or with the living mystery, an invitational presence is the prerequisite … Continue reading →

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The thorn in my side – Anne Lamott

Posted on May 9, 2017 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

http://www.salon.com/2017/04/02/the-thorn-in-my-side-i-tried-to-let-go-of-my-poisonous-grudge-against-another-writer/ Click on the above link to visit http://www.salon.com for this excerpt from April from Anne’s new book ‘Hallelujah Anyway’. Interesting and open piece about resentment, self blame and moving on through…. Here’s the book link:- Palace Gate Counselling … Continue reading →

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Brené Brown on connection, shame & empathy

Posted on May 19, 2016 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

We have previously posted Brené Brown’s lovely definition of connection, which aligns with our own and is person-centred to its core. It stands repeating:- “I define connection as the energy that exists between people when they feel seen, heard, and … Continue reading →

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Toko-pa on listening with presence

Posted on December 5, 2015 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

The heart of person-centred… Beautiful artwork too. Palace Gate Counselling Service, Exeter Counselling in Exeter since 1994

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Carl Rogers on remembering our humanity

Posted on October 20, 2015 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

“Before every session, I take a moment to remember my humanity. There is no experience that this man has that I cannot share with him, no fear that I cannot understand, no suffering that I cannot care about, because I … Continue reading →

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Carl Rogers on being listened to, and being heard

Posted on January 28, 2015 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

“When I have been listened to and when I have been heard, I am able to re-perceive my world in a new way and to go on. It is astonishing how elements that seem insoluble become soluble when someone listens, … Continue reading →

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Carl Rogers on Being Deeply Heard

Posted on September 12, 2014 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

“When a person realizes he has been deeply heard, his eyes moisten. I think in some real sense he is weeping for joy. It is as though he were saying, “Thank God, somebody heard me. Someone knows what it’s like … Continue reading →

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