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Gil Bailie on the Crucifixion & Blame

Posted on April 15, 2017 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

“The surest way to miss the link between the cure (the crucifixion and its aftereffects) and the disease (the structures of scapegoating violence upon which all human social arrangements have depended) is to read the passion story with an eye … Continue reading →

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‘Let’s talk about how we address mental health’ Dainius Pūras

Posted on April 7, 2017 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

http://www.ohchr.org/EN/NewsEvents/Pages/DisplayNews.aspx?NewsID=21480&LangID=E Click on the above link to visit this U.N. site, for this address by Dainius Pūras on World Health Day. He is a psychiatrist, and representative of the United Nations Human Rights Office of the High Commissioner. If you are … Continue reading →

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Bringing yourself to the room as therapist

Posted on April 1, 2017 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

It is vitally important the therapist authentically brings their wholeness of being to the room – and not a presentation: a sanitised, tidied, diluted ‘professional’ version of themselves. We need to risk being ourselves, because that then invites the client … Continue reading →

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‘The Poet and the Shepherd’ by Joshua Boettiger

Posted on February 10, 2017 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

The Poet and the Shepherd, by Joshua Boettiger Click on the link to visit Parabola Magazine for this astonishing article by Joshua Boettiger:- ‘We could say the search for meaning – which is a holy search – becomes imperiled whenever … Continue reading →

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James O’Dea on peacebuilding

Posted on February 1, 2017 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

“Those who recognize our essential qualities are the true peacebuilders: they let us know that they see the significance of our lives. Meanness of spirit stems from a place of neglect and the absence of nurturance and love. When we … Continue reading →

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All I ever was and had to be was sad – Talya Eidelman via Monica Cassani

Posted on January 30, 2017 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

All I ever was and had to be was sad Click on the above link to visit Monica Cassani’s site http://www.beyondmeds.com – a hugely valuable resource for anyone interested in well-being, healing from iatrogenic illness caused by psychiatric drugs, and moving … Continue reading →

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The Biggest Problem in Mental Health Treatment – Monica Cassani

Posted on January 7, 2017 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

A safe place to be… Click on the above link to visit Monica’s extremely valuable resource base at http://www.beyondmeds.com for this post – which accords with how we make sense of our work at this service:- ‘The biggest problem in mental … Continue reading →

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Teacher Chen Miller on connecting with a distressed child

Posted on December 8, 2016 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

Click on the link to visit Facebook, for this remarkable little film about teacher, Chen Miller. A person-centred way of engaging with distress… Chen is bang on about what works – whatever our age may be. The words in which … Continue reading →

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What it Really Means to Hold Space for Someone – Heather Plett

Posted on November 21, 2016 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

http://upliftconnect.com/hold-space/ Click on the above link for this wonderful piece on Uplift Connect from May this year by Heather – not generally a fan of ‘8 tips’ type articles, but been meaning to post this for ages… The space-holding qualities … Continue reading →

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Thomas Merton on Acceptance

Posted on November 17, 2016 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

“Finally I am coming to the conclusion that my highest ambition is to be what I already am. That I will never fulfill my obligation to surpass myself unless I first accept myself, and if I accept myself fully in … Continue reading →

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