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What it Really Means to Hold Space for Someone – Heather Plett

Posted on November 21, 2016 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

What it Really Means to Hold Space for Someone Click on the above link for this wonderful piece on Uplift Connect from May this year by Heather – not generally a fan of ‘8 tips’ type articles, but been meaning … Continue reading →

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Paul Gordon on unfettered capitalism & coercive conformity

Posted on September 25, 2016 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

‘The past two decades have witnessed unprecedented changes in the economic and political organisation of the world. We live, we are constantly told, in the era of globalisation, a euphemism for the triumph throughout the world of the so-called free … Continue reading →

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Erich Fromm on the situation of a sane man in an insane culture

Posted on February 4, 2016 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

“A person who has not been completely alienated, who has remained sensitive and able to feel, who has not lost the sense of dignity, who is not yet “for sale”, who can still suffer over the suffering of others, who … Continue reading →

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Person-centred Basics – Janet Tolan on Labels

Posted on October 2, 2015 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

The third in our occasional series of some person-centred fundamentals. ‘There are many ways of describing people who use services such as housing, education and health. Some of these are also used of counselling clients: this client is “manipulative”, that … Continue reading →

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The age of loneliness is killing us – George Monbiot

Posted on February 28, 2015 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

http://www.theguardian.com/commentisfree/2014/oct/14/age-of-loneliness-killing-us Powerful piece by George Monbiot in the Guardian on how cultural structures, norms and values are eroding our sense of personhood, belonging, interconnection, and denying us the one essential condition if we are to thrive – love. Thanks to … Continue reading →

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Through Light – Hannah Linden

Posted on February 9, 2015 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

http://thestaresnest.com/tag/hannah-linden/ Another recently published poem from local poet, Hannah, on The Stare’s Nest – a site which is well worth a visit, describing itself as ‘poems for a more hopeful world’. Those who have met Hannah before, on this blog … Continue reading →

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Micaela Blei – New York City Moth StorySLAM – ‘Altered’

Posted on October 2, 2014 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

Micaela’s winning story. Beautiful, on many levels….. Palace Gate Counselling Service, Exeter

Posted in beauty, conditions of worth, creativity, cultural questions, empowerment, external locus, internal locus of evaluation, loneliness, love, objectification, perception, physical being, power and powerlessness, relationship, sadness & pain, self concept, self esteem, sexual being, shame, therapeutic growth, transformation, vulnerability | Tagged affordable counselling exeter, Altered, beauty, body image, conditions of worth, counselling exeter, counsellor Exeter, counsellors Exeter, cultural norms, cultural norms of beauty, empowerment, external locus, ideals of beauty, internal locus, love, low cost counselling exeter, Micaela Blei, New York City Moth StorySLAM, objectification, pain, Palace Gate Counselling Service, Palace Gate Counselling Service Exeter, perception, person centred counselling exeter, physical being, physicality, plastic surgery, power, powerlessness, sadness, self concept, self esteem, self image, sexual being, sexual relationship, shame, transformation, unkindness, www.palacegatecounselling.org.uk | Leave a comment

Healing happens when you get out of the way: Jeff Foster

Posted on September 15, 2014 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

Here’s a Facebook post from Jeff, which beautifully captures much of how we see the intention in person-centred therapy. We believe this is a helpful and healing way for any of us to be with someone in crisis, although challenging … Continue reading →

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Gabor Mate: The Myth of Normal

Posted on August 26, 2014 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

Click on the link for this short film of the wonderful Gabor Mate talking about culturally prevalent myths of ‘normal’ and ‘abnormal’, and their unhelpful nature. At this service, we also make sense of human experience in terms of a … Continue reading →

Posted in consciousness, cultural questions, Disconnection, Gabor Mate, healing, human condition, interconnection & belonging, Palace Gate Counselling Service, paradigm shift, political, power, psychiatry, RD Laing, spirituality | Tagged abnormal psychology, alienation, Bird of Paradise, consciousness, consumerism, counselling exeter, cultural norms, disconnection, Gabor Mate, human condition, myth of normal, Palace Gate Counselling Service, Palace Gate Counselling Service Exeter, paradigm shift, Politics of Experience, psychiatric model, psychopathology, psychotherapy, R.D. Laing, schizophrenia, separation, shift of consciousness, sick society, sociopathology, spirituality | Leave a comment

C Shaw ‘Depression is not a Disease but an Indication that Human Consciousness needs to Change’

Posted on August 14, 2014 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

http://vocesdetierra.wordpress.com/2014/08/12/depression-is-not-a-disease-but-an-indication-that-human-consciousness-needs-to-change/ Interesting article dated 12 August from C Shaw. We’re not entirely on board with all of it (for example the reference to ‘depression’ as ‘chemical and emotional imbalance of the brain’ – see Joanna Moncrieff on this subject), but … Continue reading →

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