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What it Really Means to Hold Space for Someone – Heather Plett

Posted on November 21, 2016 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

What it Really Means to Hold Space for Someone Click on the above link for this wonderful piece on Uplift Connect from May this year by Heather – not generally a fan of ‘8 tips’ type articles, but been meaning … Continue reading →

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Raising your Havingness Ceiling – Toko-pa

Posted on October 3, 2016 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

Raising your Havingness Ceiling Click on the above link for this wonderful post by Toko-pa, who is regularly featured here:- ‘As soon as we begin to feel resigned with things being as they are, it is time to resume the … Continue reading →

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When Leaving Becomes Arriving: Poet & Philosopher David Whyte on Ending Relationships

Posted on September 1, 2015 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

http://www.brainpickings.org/2015/04/06/david-whyte-the-journey-house-of-belonging/ Some beauty and profundity for a Tuesday morning. Wonderful poems from David and Mary, and thank you to Maria Popova and Brainpickings for this article. This is from David Whyte’s ‘The Journey’:- ‘Above the mountains the geese turn into … Continue reading →

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Neurons to Nirvana: Gabor Maté Interview

Posted on August 21, 2015 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

A wide-ranging collection of excerpts from an interview with Gabor Maté, covering addiction, ayahuasca, past experience, transitional states, Western medicine and the mind/body division, and much more besides. As always, he is very watchable and he talks sense. Well worth … Continue reading →

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Charles Eisenstein – The Ecosexual Awakening

Posted on August 12, 2015 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

http://ecosexbook.com/excerpt-from-the-ecosexual-awakening/ Interesting perspective from Charles, which feels like an accurate metaphor for the cultural blind alleys down which we have lost ourselves. Most of our social structures are predicated upon a parent/child relationship – hierarchical, authoritarian, external-locus based…. We are … Continue reading →

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Bonnie Bright – Trauma and Homecoming: Finding a Sense of Place in the Space of Trauma

Posted on December 19, 2014 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

http://www.depthinsights.com/Depth-Insights-scholarly-ezine/trauma-and-homecoming-finding-a-sense-of-place-in-the-space-of-trauma-by-bonnie-bright/ Click on the link to visit this fascinating and profound article by Bonnie. It’s a long read, well worth the investment of time and energy. She begins with the choice of the U’wa people in Colombia, faced with the … Continue reading →

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