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James O’Dea on peacebuilding

Posted on February 1, 2017 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

“Those who recognize our essential qualities are the true peacebuilders: they let us know that they see the significance of our lives. Meanness of spirit stems from a place of neglect and the absence of nurturance and love. When we … Continue reading →

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The Election: Of Hate, Grief, and a New Story – Charles Eisenstein

Posted on November 14, 2016 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

The Election: Of Hate, Grief, and a New Story Click on the link to visit Charles’ website and read this essay. In the writer’s view, Charles is one of the visionaries and big thinkers of our time, because he speaks … Continue reading →

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9 Things You Can Do – James O’Dea

Posted on November 10, 2016 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

These feel like important reflections, for Americans and all of us…. ‘No to Fear. Yes to Vigilance. Nine things you can do: This is not a time to fall into fear or project calamitous consequences for America but it is … Continue reading →

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White Fragility: Why it’s hard to talk to white people about racism – Robin DiAngelo

Posted on July 10, 2016 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

White Fragility: Why It’s So Hard to Talk to White People About Racism Click on the link for this excellent, highly topical article by Robin DiAngelo about the challenges white people (or any cultural elite) experience in adequately encountering and understanding … Continue reading →

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To Go Beyond Thought – Karen Armstrong

Posted on February 23, 2016 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

Click on the link below for a wonderful, wide-ranging piece by Karen, with gratitude to Parabola Magazine. Here’s a taste:- ‘When a child dies, we want a scientific explanation but that’s not all we need. We need some kind of … Continue reading →

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Forty Days – Paul Kingsnorth

Posted on October 31, 2015 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

https://www.globalonenessproject.org/library/articles/forty-days A counter-cultural invitation by Paul to explore the creative potential of withdrawing and of being alone, in the context of his own longings for withdrawal. As the introduction here puts it:- ‘He explains and reinterprets his childhood dreams of withdrawal … Continue reading →

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David Whyte on Anger

Posted on July 9, 2015 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

We’ve posted this before, and it stands revisiting…. The writer experiences anger as a widely misunderstood and excluded emotion, personally and culturally – which responses arise from fear, as David recognizes….. She is interested in the idea of anger as … Continue reading →

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