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Hearing the Cries of the World – Mark Nepo

Posted on April 23, 2018 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

https://parabola.org/2016/06/14/hearing-the-cries-of-the-world-by-mark-nepo/ “True connection requires that a part of us dissolves in order to join with what we meet. This is always both painful and a revelation, as who we are is rearranged slightly, so that aliveness beyond us can enter … Continue reading →

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The descent experience: metaphor for serious illness – Sheila Joshi

Posted on August 3, 2017 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

The descent experience: metaphor for serious illness Click on the link above to visit Monica Cassani’s wonderful, resource-rich site, http://www.beyondmeds.com, for this piece by Sheila, exploring descent myths in the context of serious illness or distress. ‘In the Fall of 2010, … Continue reading →

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What it Really Means to Hold Space for Someone – Heather Plett

Posted on November 21, 2016 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

What it Really Means to Hold Space for Someone Click on the above link for this wonderful piece on Uplift Connect from May this year by Heather – not generally a fan of ‘8 tips’ type articles, but been meaning … Continue reading →

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The Space Between Stories – Lissa Rankin

Posted on August 4, 2016 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

The Space Between Stories Click on the link for this beautiful, deep piece from Lissa. Here’s a taste:- “This week, I experienced a trauma that collapsed my story of self, yet a new story has not yet emerged. Charles Eisenstein … Continue reading →

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Matt Licata on when the ground falls away

Posted on March 20, 2016 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

The writer is noticing how hard, painful and confusing life is feeling for many in her world, both those she works with therapeutically and others – and how this is often her experience too at the moment. Lots of change and loss … Continue reading →

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Matt Licata on Trust in the Fires of Disintegration

Posted on January 3, 2016 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

Matt Licata on how our movement into what Carl Rogers described as ‘the good life’ – as we actualise – tends to involve our feeling our feelings more intensely, and more connection to our vulnerability, rather than the floaty Zen detachment … Continue reading →

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Coming together and falling apart – Pema Chödrön

Posted on April 17, 2015 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

“We think that the point is to pass the test or overcome the problem, but the truth is that things don’t really get solved. They come together and they fall apart. Then they come together again and fall apart again. … Continue reading →

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