Teacher Chen Miller on connecting with a distressed child

Click on the link to visit Facebook, for this remarkable little film about teacher, Chen Miller.

A person-centred way of engaging with distress… Chen is bang on about what works – whatever our age may be. The words in which the message is couched are in some ways the least important part – or even if it’s in words at all. What matters is the message: ‘I see you. You count. I care. I get you. I’m here with you’. The healing power, when that message is offered and received, is like magic.

She is also accurate that the judgements and perceptions we have of children, become their inner voice and contribute – bit by bit – to their sense of self. So whatever relationship you stand in towards a child, it is overwhelmingly important to tread softly and with empathy, compassion and acceptance.

‘Education is the forming of impressions on souls.’

We need  to do better, for all our sakes.

Palace Gate Counselling Service, Exeter

Counselling in Exeter since 1994


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