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Never Read the Comments – Liz Gilbert

Posted on June 2, 2016 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

” This feels personally relevant to the writer, who has her own experience of group attack, including via the internet, and (some) people’s willingness to make sweeping and vicious statements about other human beings they have never met, based on one … Continue reading →

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Liz Gilbert on Mercy

Posted on November 23, 2015 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

Timely post from Liz on the high cost of ‘othering’ people, our interdependence and our need for compassion towards ourselves and each other. Here’s her latest book:- And here’s Mary Gauthier, on the same theme:- Mary Gauthier: ‘Mercy Now’ Palace Gate … Continue reading →

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Monica Lewinsky – The Price of Shame

Posted on March 30, 2015 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

This is wonderful. Thank you to Sarah Birdsall on Facebook for drawing it to our attention. Deeply thought-provoking, intelligent, heartfelt and moving – an inspiring example of someone who has taken their own horrible experience and transmuted it with courage … Continue reading →

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Mark Walsh: The Disembodied Mess We’re in

Posted on July 7, 2014 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

Click on the title/link for this powerful and passionate plea from Mark Walsh about our deep need for an embodied experience of ourselves, and the cultural sickness evidenced and perpetuated by our disconnection from our own bodies. Palace Gate Counselling … Continue reading →

Posted in body psychotherapy, bodywork, Disconnection, human condition, paradigm shift, physical being, touch, violence | Tagged Buber, dehumanisation, dehumanization, disconnection, disembodiment, embodied, embodied experience, embodiment, I it relationship, Mark Walsh, objectification, Palace Gate Counselling Service, physical being | Leave a comment

Person-Centred Therapy: Brian Thorne

Posted on March 10, 2014 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

Person-Centred Therapy: Brian Thorne Click on the title to go straight to the PDF version of the essay….. This is a SUPERB essay by Brian. A must for anyone training, working or interested in the person-centred approach. It’s essentially a … Continue reading →

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