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Brené Brown on asking for help

Posted on June 23, 2017 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

“One of the greatest barriers to connection is the cultural importance we place on “going it alone.” Somehow we’ve come to equate success with not needing anyone. Many of us are willing to extend a helping hand, but we’re very … Continue reading →

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‘Is mental illness real?’ Jay Watts

Posted on April 19, 2017 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

https://www.theguardian.com/commentisfree/2017/apr/12/is-mental-illness-real-google-answer?CMP=share_btn_tw Click on the above link for this interesting and important piece in the Guardian’s ‘Comment is free’ section, showing how these perceptions are gradually making it into the mainstream media…which is encouraging. For the writer, Jay still speaks in … Continue reading →

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The Election: Of Hate, Grief, and a New Story – Charles Eisenstein

Posted on November 14, 2016 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

The Election: Of Hate, Grief, and a New Story Click on the link to visit Charles’ website and read this essay. In the writer’s view, Charles is one of the visionaries and big thinkers of our time, because he speaks … Continue reading →

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Why Does Mainstream Psychiatry Fear a Balanced Understanding of Psychosis? Ron Unger

Posted on November 5, 2015 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

http://recoveryfromschizophrenia.org/2015/11/why-does-mainstream-psychiatry-fear-a-balanced-understanding-of-psychosis/#more-1682 Useful, interesting article on the BPS Report, ‘Understanding Psychosis and Schizophrenia’ and the mainstream psychiatric response. Thanks, Ron. Palace Gate Counselling Service, Exeter Counselling in Exeter since 1994

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Person-centred Basics – Janet Tolan on Labels

Posted on October 2, 2015 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

The third in our occasional series of some person-centred fundamentals. ‘There are many ways of describing people who use services such as housing, education and health. Some of these are also used of counselling clients: this client is “manipulative”, that … Continue reading →

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Laurie Penny: The New Statesman – the issue for Europe is not migrants, but creeping fascism

Posted on August 15, 2015 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

http://www.newstatesman.com/politics/2015/08/europe-shouldn-t-worry-about-migrants-it-should-worry-about-creeping-fascism Powerful and accurate piece from Laurie, for which gratitude. ‘There is an urban legend about boiling frogs, and it goes like this. If you put a frog in a pan of cold water and slowly, slowly turn up the … Continue reading →

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