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Matt Licata on not allowing ‘spirituality’ to shame our needs

This is so important. The blame and shame model is always toxic, whether the more traditional style, or clad in New Age robes. We all feel, and we all need – it’s integral to the human experience. The helpful response is … Continue reading

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Gabor Maté on Addiction, change & relationship with someone who is addicted

‘To live with an addict of any kind is frustrating, emotionally painful and often infuriating. Family, friends and spouse may feel they are dealing with a double personality: one sane and lovable, the other devious and uncaring. They believe the … Continue reading

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Arthur Miller on loving our lives

‘I think one must finally take one’s life in one’s arms.’ After the Fall: Arthur Miller We can make sense of therapy as a means of supporting this process. Palace Gate Counselling Service, Exeter

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The Story of Maddy & Fiona: A modern fable: Palace Gate Counselling Service

I first published this on my personal blog on 2 April 2013. Lindsey Talbott, Therapist Palace Gate Counselling Service Mary Kilborn (1943-2000)“Her preparedness to take risks and to run the danger of being accused of over-involvement (a favourite term of … Continue reading

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