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Screaming to sleep, Part One: The moral imperative to end ‘cry it out’ Amy Wright Glenn

Posted on November 2, 2017 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

http://www.phillyvoice.com/screaming-sleep/ Click on the link above to visit Philly Voice’s site for this great piece by Amy. If you are a parent, or thinking about being a parent, or if you work with parents, read this… Too many unintentionally traumatised … Continue reading →

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‘Ground’ David Whyte

Posted on July 3, 2017 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

Click on the link for this reflection by David. For those who have difficulty seeing Facebook links, here is the text:- ‘GROUND is what lies beneath our feet. It is the place where we already stand; a state of recognition, … Continue reading →

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Your baby does NOT need to ‘learn to self-settle’ Jessica Offer

Posted on December 15, 2016 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

http://www.kidspot.com.au/baby/baby-development/baby-behaviour/your-baby-does-not-need-to-learn-to-self-settle Click on the above link to read this post by Jessica on http://www.kidspot.com.au ‘If you’re questioning the rightness of your desire to pick up your baby when he cries, or lie beside him as he falls to sleep, read … Continue reading →

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Gabor Maté on what becomes of the desolate child

Posted on November 4, 2015 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

‘Paul Gillespie still can’t get used to the sounds of crying and pain in the graphic videos of children being raped and molested that he has seen all too often on the Web. “It’s beyond horrible to listen to the … Continue reading →

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Neurons to Nirvana: Gabor Maté Interview

Posted on August 21, 2015 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

A wide-ranging collection of excerpts from an interview with Gabor Maté, covering addiction, ayahuasca, past experience, transitional states, Western medicine and the mind/body division, and much more besides. As always, he is very watchable and he talks sense. Well worth … Continue reading →

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Gabor Maté – Toxic Culture, Bioneers Conference 2012

Posted on May 27, 2015 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

‘The birth and death of any phenomena is connected to the birth and death of all other phenomena. The one contains the many, and the many contains the one.’ The Buddha Insightful talk that the ever-watchable Gabor Maté gave at … Continue reading →

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Coming together and falling apart – Pema Chödrön

Posted on April 17, 2015 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

“We think that the point is to pass the test or overcome the problem, but the truth is that things don’t really get solved. They come together and they fall apart. Then they come together again and fall apart again. … Continue reading →

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When Another Child Hurts Your Child – Patty Wipfler

Posted on April 9, 2015 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

http://www.handinhandparenting.org/article/when-another-child-hurts-your-child/ Interesting, helpful article from Patty from Hand in Hand Parenting. This one explores helpful/unhelpful responses in this emotionally demanding situation, to the child who has been hurt, to the aggressor and also looks at how the parent can best … Continue reading →

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The Power of Addiction and The Addiction of Power: Gabor Maté at TEDxRio+20

Posted on October 27, 2014 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

Another wonderful talk from Gabor Maté, this time coming in at a little under 19 minutes. We think he’s bang on, both in terms of what he says about addiction and in terms of the wider implications of this for … Continue reading →

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Gabor Maté ‘Who We Are When We Are Not Addicted: The Possible Human’

Posted on October 13, 2014 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

As promised a couple of days ago, here is an whole hour of the wonderful Gabor Maté, sharing his thoughts on this theme. The writer watched this last night, and found it spell-binding. He’s original, profound and funny – and … Continue reading →

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