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Oriah Mountain Dreamer on being lied about

Posted on September 23, 2016 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

The writer is only too familiar with the feeling Oriah describes: ‘constricted, shaken, a little frantic….helpless’ – and with the inward and outward impacts of being privately and publicly lied about, with significant harm done. At one level she subscribes … Continue reading →

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Unconditional – David Whyte

Posted on August 22, 2016 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

Here’s the text, for those who have difficulty reading Facebook links:- ‘UNCONDITIONAL love is not fully possible. Unconditional love is the necessary, dream-like, and invisible shoreline that continually draws us to its edge but where we can never fully … Continue reading →

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‘What’s the Cure for Whining?’ Patty Wipfler – Hand in Hand Parenting

Posted on February 10, 2016 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

Click on the link below for another helpful article from Patty, about how to help your child with their difficult feelings, and get beyond the unhelpfulness of blaming and punishing. Palace Gate Counselling Service, Exeter Counselling in Exeter since 1994 … Continue reading →

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This Is What A Suicidal Crisis Looks Like From The Inside – Alaina Mabaso

Posted on September 14, 2015 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

http://www.depressionarmy.com/ourblog/2015/8/2/this-is-what-a-suicidal-crisis-looks-like-from-the-inside Very powerful piece by Alaina, for which many thanks. I know this landscape of bleak despair, and the urge to die. Since I was a teenager, I have visited it from time to time. During my training as a … Continue reading →

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The Magical Healing Power Of Caring and Hope in Psychotherapy – Allen Frances

Posted on July 13, 2015 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

http://www.huffingtonpost.com/allen-frances/the-magical-healing-power_b_7020540.html Allen is a Professor Emeritus at Duke University. His perspective differs in some important respects from the writer’s – and she wholeheartedly agrees with some of his key statements, which closely reflect how we work at this service:- ‘….a … Continue reading →

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Antidepressant Superstition: How doctors & patients get fooled by antidepressants – Jonathan Shedler

Posted on February 11, 2015 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/psychologically-minded/201502/antidepressant-superstition Thank you to John, and Brent Potter for drawing our attention to this worthwhile article by Jonathan, originally published in Psychologically Minded. The writer does not herself use the terminology of ‘depression’ or ‘disorder’ – and the points here … Continue reading →

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