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Thich Nhat Hanh on those who harm others

Posted on June 5, 2018 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

“When another person makes you suffer, it is because he suffers deeply within himself, and his suffering is spilling over. He does not need punishment; he needs help. That’s the message he is sending.” Thich Nhat Hanh This feels wholly … Continue reading →

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Paulo Coelho on Awakening love

Posted on September 27, 2016 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

“Love is not to be found in someone else, but in ourselves; we simply awaken it. But in order to do that, we need the other person. The universe only makes sense when we have someone to share our feelings … Continue reading →

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Matt Licata on Shadow Work & Love

Posted on September 26, 2016 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

Here is the text for those who have difficulty in reading Facebook links:- ‘To do the work of the shadow, to travel along the descendent current with your heart open, is a radical act of kindness and courage. For when … Continue reading →

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Seeking Sanctuary in Our Own Sacred Spaces – Parker J. Palmer

Posted on September 18, 2016 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

http://www.onbeing.org/blog/parker-palmer-seeking-sanctuary-in-our-own-sacred-spaces/8928 Click on the link to visit http://www.onbeing.org for this wonderful piece by Parker J Palmer on the importance of creating sanctuary in our lives, to support our doing what we can to survive in – and challenge – the … Continue reading →

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Anne Lamott – Love is sovereign here

Posted on July 22, 2016 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

We have a bit of a theme this week around how helpfully to respond to the violence and craziness in our world, our fear and sense of powerlessness in the face of all that, and our own more difficult feelings. Follow … Continue reading →

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Dave Mearns on the counsellor’s practice of self-care

Posted on June 23, 2016 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

Our view at this service is that by far the most important attribute of any therapist (and what we look for when therapists seek to volunteer here) is a strong, consistent commitment to their own self-care, awareness and personal growth. We take … Continue reading →

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Frederick Buechner on telling our secrets

Posted on May 2, 2016 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

“I have come to believe that by and large the human family all has the same secrets, which are both very telling and very important to tell. They are telling in the sense that they tell what is perhaps the … Continue reading →

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Angel-A by Luc Besson

Posted on November 13, 2015 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

‘It’s difficult to love yourself when you cannot see your reflection.’ Beautiful piece with Rie Rasmussen and Jamel Debbouze, about how we need to (and how we learn to) see and love our own person. The context differs, but this … Continue reading →

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Saving Castaways via Upworthy

Posted on August 10, 2015 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

Incredibly moving film about compassion, redemption and the value of all life. If you are looking for an antidote to some of what is going on in our world, and for some hopefulness, you could go further and fare … Continue reading →

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The Magical Healing Power Of Caring and Hope in Psychotherapy – Allen Frances

Posted on July 13, 2015 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

http://www.huffingtonpost.com/allen-frances/the-magical-healing-power_b_7020540.html Allen is a Professor Emeritus at Duke University. His perspective differs in some important respects from the writer’s – and she wholeheartedly agrees with some of his key statements, which closely reflect how we work at this service:- ‘….a … Continue reading →

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