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Heavy – Mary Oliver

Posted on January 18, 2019 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

Deeply sad to hear of the death of Mary Oliver, who has accompanied many of us over the sunlit grasslands and through the tight ravines. Gratitude for all she offers, and to Vera de Chalambert on Facebook for reminding us … Continue reading →

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Francis Weller on Grief

Posted on December 6, 2018 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

“Grief is subversive, undermining the quiet agreement to behave and be in control of our emotions. It is an act of protest that declares our refusal to live numb and small. There is something feral about grief, something essentially outside … Continue reading →

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Oriah Mountain Dreamer – The Invitation

Posted on September 1, 2017 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

‘It doesn’t interest me what you do for a living. I want to know what you ache for and if you dare to dream of meeting your heart’s longing. It doesn’t interest me how old you are. I want to … Continue reading →

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What Chester Bennington’s death tells us about mental health awareness

Posted on July 23, 2017 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

https://doctorgoatblog.wordpress.com/2017/07/22/what-chester-benningtons-death-tells-us-about-mental-health-awareness/ Click on the link above for this wise, heartful post by an anonymous blogger who identifies as Dr Goat. This expresses much of how we make sense of human distress at this service. There is (for example) no evidence … Continue reading →

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5 things I wish you knew before euthanizing your dog – Kelsey Beth Carpenter

Posted on July 13, 2017 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

https://pupjournal.com/5-things-wish-knew-euthanizing/?utm_source=facebook&utm_medium=social&utm_campaign=pj-share Click on the above link for this reflective, kind, helpful piece on a difficult theme by a veterinary technician. The writer of this post has seen many beloved creatures on their final journeys, and resonated with these comments, whether … Continue reading →

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Laura Delano on Feeling your feelings, empathy, compassion – & the shrink

Posted on June 2, 2017 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

Click on the above link to visit Laura’s Facebook page, for this moving, accurate, important post. We work outside the ‘mental health’/psychiatric system and terminology here. We choose our therapists for their willingness to do their own work and their … Continue reading →

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We Were Made For These Times – Clarissa Pinkola Estes

Posted on May 18, 2017 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

http://www.grahameb.com/pinkola_estes.htm Click on the link for this beautiful and inspiring piece from Clarissa. It won’t be new to some of you….and stands repeating. Thanks to Jewels Wingfield on Facebook for a timely reminder of this passage, in the run up … Continue reading →

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Susannah Darling Khan ‘Your dance does not depend on the music’

Posted on July 6, 2016 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

Susannah and Ya’Acov Darling Khan founded the School of Movement Medicine, near to us in Devon, and teach this conscious dance form all over the world. Here’s how they describe their work:- ‘Movement Medicine is a creative, embodied meditation practice for our times. It … Continue reading →

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‘The Death Mother’ Toko-pa

Posted on May 11, 2016 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

The Death Mother Click on the link for this interesting and profound book review from Toko-pa – containing several useful links – on the archetype and meanings of the Death Mother:- ‘If you were the child of a mother crippled by her own … Continue reading →

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Erich Fromm on the situation of a sane man in an insane culture

Posted on February 4, 2016 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

“A person who has not been completely alienated, who has remained sensitive and able to feel, who has not lost the sense of dignity, who is not yet “for sale”, who can still suffer over the suffering of others, who … Continue reading →

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