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Screaming to sleep, Part One: The moral imperative to end ‘cry it out’ Amy Wright Glenn

Posted on November 2, 2017 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

http://www.phillyvoice.com/screaming-sleep/ Click on the link above to visit Philly Voice’s site for this great piece by Amy. If you are a parent, or thinking about being a parent, or if you work with parents, read this… Too many unintentionally traumatised … Continue reading →

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Gabor Maté on the roots of addiction

Posted on July 16, 2015 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

“Not all addictions are rooted in abuse or trauma, but I do believe they can all be traced to painful experience. A hurt is at the centre of all addictive behaviours. It is present in the gambler, the Internet addict, … Continue reading →

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Johann Hari on Addiction

Posted on January 23, 2015 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

http://www.huffingtonpost.com/johann-hari/the-real-cause-of-addicti_b_6506936.html Click on the link for this excellent article. We have seen this in a number of places over the past few days (thank you, Brent Potter and Monica Cassani), and it deserves a wide audience. The writer’s sense at … Continue reading →

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Gabor Maté: On Storytelling, Health, and the Ruling Class, with Ryan Meili

Posted on November 24, 2014 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

http://briarpatchmagazine.com/articles/view/gabor-mate-storytelling Click on the link for Part 2 of this fascinating, wide-ranging interview with Gabor Mate (Part 1 was yesterday’s post). The writer is often struck with the strong links between what Gabor is saying, and person-centred. For example, Rogers … Continue reading →

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The Power of Addiction and The Addiction of Power: Gabor Maté at TEDxRio+20

Posted on October 27, 2014 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

Another wonderful talk from Gabor Maté, this time coming in at a little under 19 minutes. We think he’s bang on, both in terms of what he says about addiction and in terms of the wider implications of this for … Continue reading →

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Gabor Maté ‘Who We Are When We Are Not Addicted: The Possible Human’

Posted on October 13, 2014 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

As promised a couple of days ago, here is an whole hour of the wonderful Gabor Maté, sharing his thoughts on this theme. The writer watched this last night, and found it spell-binding. He’s original, profound and funny – and … Continue reading →

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The Roots of Addiction – Gabor Maté

Posted on October 10, 2014 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

Powerful, moving film with Gabor Maté talking about the origins and nature of compulsive behaviours and substance use. We are going to post some longer films of Gabor Maté’s work – this is another taster, at just over 3 minutes. … Continue reading →

Posted in abuse, child development, childhood abuse, compulsive behaviour, Disconnection, emotions, external locus, family systems, fear, Gabor Mate, generational trauma, genetics, grief, growing up, human condition, internal locus of evaluation, loss, sadness & pain, trauma, violence | Tagged 'eating disorder', addiction, adverse childhood experience, affordable counselling exeter, alcoholism, anorexia, brain chemistry, bulimia, childhood development, childhood distress, childhood trauma, compulsive behaviour, compulsive eating, compulsive shopping, compulsive spending, coping strategies, counselling exeter, counsellor Exeter, counsellors Exeter, drug abuse, drug addiction, drug dependency, drug use, Gabor Mate, loss, low cost counselling exeter, medicating pain, nature or nurture, neuroscience, pain, Palace Gate Counselling Service, Palace Gate Counselling Service Exeter, parental disfunction, parental distress, parenting, person centred counselling exeter, porn addiction, regulating emotion, sadness, self harming, self medicating, self regulation, self soothing, sex addiction, trauma, www.palacegatecounselling.org.uk | Leave a comment

Oriah Mountain Dreamer on Putting herself to one side

Posted on July 24, 2014 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

“Stepping Away There is this pattern I sometimes unconsciously slip into that does not work well for me. I learned it early- a coping strategy in a childhood home where the adults’ underlying rage and unhappiness was like an ever-present … Continue reading →

Posted in child development, conditions of worth, Disconnection, external locus, family systems, growing up, identity, interconnection & belonging, internal locus of evaluation, Oriah Mountain Dreamer, relationship, self | Tagged conditions of worth, coping strategies, disconnection, external locus, internal locus, losing self, organismic experiencing, Palace Gate Counselling Service, placating, pleasing others, seeking approval, self concept | Leave a comment

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