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How You Are Already Seeding Transformation – Joe Brewer

Posted on January 25, 2018 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

https://medium.com/@joe_brewer/how-you-are-already-seeding-transformation-d14a516d2850 Click on the above link for this inspiring piece from Joe. Thanks to Justine Corrie on Facebook for showing us this. Here’s an excerpt:- “Imagine the surface of a mountain lake in winter. The air has fallen below freezing … Continue reading →

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Screaming to sleep, Part One: The moral imperative to end ‘cry it out’ Amy Wright Glenn

Posted on November 2, 2017 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

http://www.phillyvoice.com/screaming-sleep/ Click on the link above to visit Philly Voice’s site for this great piece by Amy. If you are a parent, or thinking about being a parent, or if you work with parents, read this… Too many unintentionally traumatised … Continue reading →

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Your baby does NOT need to ‘learn to self-settle’ Jessica Offer

Posted on December 15, 2016 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

http://www.kidspot.com.au/baby/baby-development/baby-behaviour/your-baby-does-not-need-to-learn-to-self-settle Click on the above link to read this post by Jessica on http://www.kidspot.com.au ‘If you’re questioning the rightness of your desire to pick up your baby when he cries, or lie beside him as he falls to sleep, read … Continue reading →

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Rachel Naomi Remen on Mystery

Posted on September 8, 2016 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

“As a physician, I was trained to deal with uncertainty as aggressively as I dealt with disease itself. The unknown was the enemy. Within this world view, having a question feels like an emergency; it means that something is out … Continue reading →

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