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‘What’s the Cure for Whining?’ Patty Wipfler – Hand in Hand Parenting

Posted on February 10, 2016 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

Click on the link below for another helpful article from Patty, about how to help your child with their difficult feelings, and get beyond the unhelpfulness of blaming and punishing. Palace Gate Counselling Service, Exeter Counselling in Exeter since 1994 … Continue reading →

Posted in anger, blaming, child development, communication, conflict, core conditions, cultural questions, Disconnection, embodiment, emotions, empathy, empowerment, encounter, family systems, Hand in Hand Parenting, interconnection & belonging, kindness & compassion, loneliness, love, parenting, perception, power and powerlessness, presence, relationship, sadness & pain, self concept, self esteem, shaming, touch, trust, vulnerability | Tagged aloneness, ancestral healing, ancestral pain, asking for help, attention, being loved, belonging, boundaries, catharsis, child behaviour, child’s frame of reference, childhood confidence, childhood distress, childhood needs, children whining, closeness, comforting children, communicating with children, communicating with your child, conflict, connectedness, connection, conscious parenting, contact, difficult feeling, disconnection, emotional climate, emotional outlets, emotional reality, emotional tasks, emotional weather, empathic listening, empathy, encounter, endings, expressing feelings, familial patterns, family patterns, feeling cherished, feeling disconnected, feeling loved, feeling powerless, feeling separate, fixing, frustration, helping children deal with endings, Helplessness, human needs, inner weather, inner well being, interconnection, intimacy, irrational requests, loneliness, manipulation, manipulative behaviour, naughty step, need for contact, parental anger, parental attention, parental availability, parental communication, parental exhaustion, parental resentment, parenting, persistent unhappiness, placating, play therapy, playfulness, powerlessness, presence, punishing, punishing children, punishment, reassurance, reassuring, releasing bad feelings, rescuing, responding not reacting, saying no, saying no to your child, self esteem, sense of connection, separateness, sibling competition, sibling rivalry, somatic expressions of distress, tantrums, time out, trust, uncomfortable feeling, understanding, unhappy mood, venting, well-being, whining, why love matters, zoning out | Leave a comment

When Another Child Hurts Your Child – Patty Wipfler

Posted on April 9, 2015 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

http://www.handinhandparenting.org/article/when-another-child-hurts-your-child/ Interesting, helpful article from Patty from Hand in Hand Parenting. This one explores helpful/unhelpful responses in this emotionally demanding situation, to the child who has been hurt, to the aggressor and also looks at how the parent can best … Continue reading →

Posted in anger, bullying, child development, communication, conditions of worth, conflict, congruence, core conditions, cultural questions, Disconnection, emotions, empathy, empowerment, encounter, fear, growing up, Hand in Hand Parenting, healing, identity, internal locus of evaluation, kindness & compassion, parenting, perception, physical being, power and powerlessness, presence, relationship, resilience, sadness & pain, self esteem, tears, violence, vulnerability | Tagged affordable counselling exeter, aggression, alternative conflict resolution, anger, belonging, bullying, child development, childhood confidence, childhood distress, childhood identity, coercive conformity, coercive parenting, communication, compassion, conflict, conflict resolution, congruence, connection, conscious parenting, core conditions, counselling exeter, counsellor Exeter, counsellors Exeter, disconnection, disempowerment, distress, emotional awareness, emotional regulation, emotional support, empathic listening, empathic relationship, empathy, empowerment, encounter, fear, growing up, growth, Hand in Hand Parenting, healing, injustice, insight, integrity, interconnectedness, interconnection, internal locus, justice, low cost counselling exeter, Maslow, meeting emotional needs, Palace Gate Counselling Service, Palace Gate Counselling Service Exeter, parenting, parenting by connection, Patty Wipfler, perception, person centred counselling exeter, physical aggression, presence, processing feelings, relationship, resilience, self esteem, self regulation, staylistening, tears, threat response, violence, violence in children, vulnerability, www.palacegatecounselling.org.uk | Leave a comment

The Power of Addiction and The Addiction of Power: Gabor Maté at TEDxRio+20

Posted on October 27, 2014 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

Another wonderful talk from Gabor Maté, this time coming in at a little under 19 minutes. We think he’s bang on, both in terms of what he says about addiction and in terms of the wider implications of this for … Continue reading →

Posted in abuse, child development, childhood abuse, compulsive behaviour, conditions of worth, consciousness, cultural questions, Disconnection, ecological, ecological issues, emotions, external locus, fear, Gabor Mate, generational trauma, grief, growing up, healing, human condition, medical model, parenting, perception, political, power, power and powerlessness, psychiatric drugs, risk, self concept, sexual violence, suicide, TED, trauma, trust, violence, vulnerability | Tagged 'eating disorder', abuse of power, addiction, addiction to power, adverse childhood experience, affordable counselling exeter, alcoholism, anorexia, belief, brain chemistry, bulimia, childhood development, childhood distress, childhood trauma, compulsive behaviour, compulsive eating, compulsive shopping, compulsive spending, coping strategies, counselling exeter, counsellor Exeter, counsellors Exeter, drug abuse, drug addiction, drug dependency, drug use, ecology, Gabor Mate, In the Realm of Hungry Ghosts, loss, low cost counselling exeter, medicating pain, misuse of power, nature or nurture, neuroscience, pain, Palace Gate Counselling Service, Palace Gate Counselling Service Exeter, parental disfunction, parental distress, parenting, person centred counselling exeter, political power, politics, porn addiction, power addiction, power of addiction, regulating emotion, sadness, self harming, self medicating, self regulation, self soothing, sex addiction, stillness, TED, TEDx, The Possible Human, trauma, Who are we when we are not addicted, Who We Are When We Are Not Addicted, www.palacegatecounselling.org.uk | Leave a comment

Michael Eigen on learning to be with our scream

Posted on October 23, 2014 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

‘Just because one is a baby and stops screaming, it doesn’t mean that the scream goes away inside. There is a scream that goes on all life long no matter who we are or what we do. Some of us … Continue reading →

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Gabor Maté ‘Who We Are When We Are Not Addicted: The Possible Human’

Posted on October 13, 2014 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

As promised a couple of days ago, here is an whole hour of the wonderful Gabor Maté, sharing his thoughts on this theme. The writer watched this last night, and found it spell-binding. He’s original, profound and funny – and … Continue reading →

Posted in abuse, acceptance, actualizing tendency, anti-depressants, child development, childhood abuse, cognitive, compulsive behaviour, conditions of worth, consciousness, core conditions, cultural questions, Disconnection, empowerment, family systems, fear, flow, Gabor Mate, healing, human condition, immanence, interconnection & belonging, internal locus of evaluation, Joseph Campbell, love, medical model, meditation, mindfulness, organismic experiencing, paradigm shift, perception, person centred, psychiatric drugs, psychiatry, reality, relationship, sadness & pain, self, self concept, spirituality, sustainability, therapeutic growth, therapeutic relationship, transformation, trauma, trust, vulnerability, wonder, working with clients | Tagged 'eating disorder', addiction, adverse childhood experience, affordable counselling exeter, alcoholism, anorexia, Ayahuasca, belief, brain chemistry, bulimia, childhood development, childhood distress, childhood trauma, compulsive behaviour, compulsive eating, compulsive shopping, compulsive spending, coping strategies, counselling exeter, counsellor Exeter, counsellors Exeter, drug abuse, drug addiction, drug dependency, drug use, enlightenment, faith, Gabor Mate, In the Realm of Hungry Ghosts, loss, low cost counselling exeter, medicating pain, nature or nurture, neuroscience, pain, Palace Gate Counselling Service, Palace Gate Counselling Service Exeter, parental disfunction, parental distress, parenting, person centred counselling exeter, porn addiction, regulating emotion, sadness, self harming, self medicating, self regulation, self soothing, sex addiction, spirituality, stillness, The Possible Human, trauma, Who are we when we are not addicted, Who We Are When We Are Not Addicted, www.palacegatecounselling.org.uk | 1 Comment

The Roots of Addiction – Gabor Maté

Posted on October 10, 2014 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

Powerful, moving film with Gabor Maté talking about the origins and nature of compulsive behaviours and substance use. We are going to post some longer films of Gabor Maté’s work – this is another taster, at just over 3 minutes. … Continue reading →

Posted in abuse, child development, childhood abuse, compulsive behaviour, Disconnection, emotions, external locus, family systems, fear, Gabor Mate, generational trauma, genetics, grief, growing up, human condition, internal locus of evaluation, loss, sadness & pain, trauma, violence | Tagged 'eating disorder', addiction, adverse childhood experience, affordable counselling exeter, alcoholism, anorexia, brain chemistry, bulimia, childhood development, childhood distress, childhood trauma, compulsive behaviour, compulsive eating, compulsive shopping, compulsive spending, coping strategies, counselling exeter, counsellor Exeter, counsellors Exeter, drug abuse, drug addiction, drug dependency, drug use, Gabor Mate, loss, low cost counselling exeter, medicating pain, nature or nurture, neuroscience, pain, Palace Gate Counselling Service, Palace Gate Counselling Service Exeter, parental disfunction, parental distress, parenting, person centred counselling exeter, porn addiction, regulating emotion, sadness, self harming, self medicating, self regulation, self soothing, sex addiction, trauma, www.palacegatecounselling.org.uk | Leave a comment