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Reasons not to use ‘timeouts’ or ‘naughty steps’

Useful short film, explaining how ‘timeout’ or the ‘naughty step’ harm your relationship with your child and damage their ability to connect helpfully with their feelings and with you. Palace Gate Counselling Service, Exeter Counselling in Exeter since 1994

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Jason Hine on relating to those we find difficult

Click on the link feels like an important post from Jason on Facebook. The listeningĀ he describes isĀ akin to the therapist’s openness to hearing ‘what is underneath the words’; unspoken; perhaps unknown or only partially known – awaiting a gentle invitation … Continue reading

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Thomas Merton on love & empathy

“To love another as a person we must begin by granting him his own autonomy and identity as a person. We have to love him for what he is in himself, and not for what he is to us. We … Continue reading

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Send Forgiveness Viral – The Project

Stop the outrage and #SendForgivenessViral | Written by Waleed Aly & Tom Whitty (@twhittyer) #TheProjectTV https://t.co/lMonyEhmB5 — #TheProjectTV (@theprojecttv) July 19, 2016 Forgiveness is a tricky word… The writer has often experienced working with a deeply traumatized human being who … Continue reading

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Person-Centred Basics – Dave Mearns & Brian Thorne on Congruence

The sixth in our occasional series of person-centred fundamentals. ‘Why is congruence important? Like empathy and unconditional positive regard, congruence makes it easier for the client to trust the counsellor and the counselling process. If the client accepts the congruence … Continue reading

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Small Talk – Life on a Farm – Luanne Armstrong

https://www.globalonenessproject.org/library/articles/small-talk-life-farm Fascinating and lovely piece by Luanne, about engagement with the natural world. Reminded us too, of this recent post featuring Charles Eisenstein, also about changing how we relate to the non-human world. https://palacegatecounsellingservice.wordpress.com/2015/08/12/charles-eisenstein-the-ecosexual-awakening/ It seems to us that the … Continue reading

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