Tag Archives: blaming

Oriah Mountain Dreamer on being lied about

The writer is only too familiar with the feeling Oriah describes: ‘constricted, shaken, a little frantic….helpless’ – and with the inward and outward impacts of being privately and publicly lied about, with significant harm done. At one level she subscribes … Continue reading

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Pema Chödrön on Leaning in & Staying Present

“The next time you lose heart and you can’t bear to experience what you’re feeling, you might recall this instruction: change the way you see it and lean in. Instead of blaming our discomfort on outer circumstances or on our … Continue reading

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Send Forgiveness Viral – The Project

Stop the outrage and #SendForgivenessViral | Written by Waleed Aly & Tom Whitty (@twhittyer) #TheProjectTV https://t.co/lMonyEhmB5 — #TheProjectTV (@theprojecttv) July 19, 2016 Forgiveness is a tricky word… The writer has often experienced working with a deeply traumatized human being who … Continue reading

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EU Referendum: Time For Compassion & Ditch The Spiritual Bypass – Clare Josa

http://www.dancinginyoursoulshoes.com/eu-referendum-spiritual-bypass/ Click on the link for this important article by Clare about how – and how not to – respond to shock, fear, grief and loss in others and in yourself. It includes a film with Clare talking about how … Continue reading

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Professor Michael Dougan on the EU Referendum Debate

This may seem like an unusual post for a counselling service. However, this is a huge decision that will impact all our lives for many years to come, and the lives of those yet to come. Like Michael, we have serious … Continue reading

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Brené Brown on connection, shame & empathy

We have previously posted Brené Brown’s lovely definition of connection, which aligns with our own and is person-centred to its core. It stands repeating:- “I define connection as the energy that exists between people when they feel seen, heard, and … Continue reading

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Pema Chödrön on Blaming

“We habitually erect a barrier called blame that keeps us from communicating genuinely with others, and we fortify it with our concepts of who’s right and who’s wrong. We do that with the people who are closest to us and … Continue reading

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