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Toko-pa on Invitational presence
Beautiful description of therapeutic relationship…and indeed relationship… Here’s the wording for anyone who has trouble following Facebook links:- “Whether we are looking to create closeness with others, with nature, or with the living mystery, an invitational presence is the prerequisite … Continue reading →
Posted in community, core conditions, cultural questions, empathy, encounter, interconnection & belonging, love, person centred, presence, relationship, therapeutic relationship, Toko-pa
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Tagged affordable counselling exeter, attention, attentive listening, attentiveness, being heard, being seen, belonging, closeness, communication, connectedness, connection, core conditions, counselling exeter, counsellor Exeter, counsellors Exeter, creating closeness, creating relationship, deep listening, empathy, encounter, expressing love, expressing understanding, feeling heard, feeling seen, I Thou, inseparability, interconnection, interconnection & belonging, interdependence, intimacy, invitational presence, listening, love, loving relationship, low cost counselling exeter, non-directive counselling, Palace Gate Counselling Service, Palace Gate Counselling Service Exeter, person centred counselling exeter, person-centered, person-centred, presence, relationship, sacred space, shared memory, tenderness, therapeutic relationship, Toko-pa, trust in relationship, welcoming presence, www.palacegatecounselling.org.uk
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‘What’s the Cure for Whining?’ Patty Wipfler – Hand in Hand Parenting
Click on the link below for another helpful article from Patty, about how to help your child with their difficult feelings, and get beyond the unhelpfulness of blaming and punishing. Palace Gate Counselling Service, Exeter Counselling in Exeter since 1994 … Continue reading →
Posted in anger, blaming, child development, communication, conflict, core conditions, cultural questions, Disconnection, embodiment, emotions, empathy, empowerment, encounter, family systems, Hand in Hand Parenting, interconnection & belonging, kindness & compassion, loneliness, love, parenting, perception, power and powerlessness, presence, relationship, sadness & pain, self concept, self esteem, shaming, touch, trust, vulnerability
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Tagged aloneness, ancestral healing, ancestral pain, asking for help, attention, being loved, belonging, boundaries, catharsis, child behaviour, child’s frame of reference, childhood confidence, childhood distress, childhood needs, children whining, closeness, comforting children, communicating with children, communicating with your child, conflict, connectedness, connection, conscious parenting, contact, difficult feeling, disconnection, emotional climate, emotional outlets, emotional reality, emotional tasks, emotional weather, empathic listening, empathy, encounter, endings, expressing feelings, familial patterns, family patterns, feeling cherished, feeling disconnected, feeling loved, feeling powerless, feeling separate, fixing, frustration, helping children deal with endings, Helplessness, human needs, inner weather, inner well being, interconnection, intimacy, irrational requests, loneliness, manipulation, manipulative behaviour, naughty step, need for contact, parental anger, parental attention, parental availability, parental communication, parental exhaustion, parental resentment, parenting, persistent unhappiness, placating, play therapy, playfulness, powerlessness, presence, punishing, punishing children, punishment, reassurance, reassuring, releasing bad feelings, rescuing, responding not reacting, saying no, saying no to your child, self esteem, sense of connection, separateness, sibling competition, sibling rivalry, somatic expressions of distress, tantrums, time out, trust, uncomfortable feeling, understanding, unhappy mood, venting, well-being, whining, why love matters, zoning out
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Breaking News: The Cause of Schizophrenia Finally Discovered? Noel Hunter
http://psychintegrity.org/breaking-news-the-cause-of-schizophrenia-finally-discovered/ Follow the above link for Noel’s piece. It’s a long, well-written and well researched article, essential reading for anyone in our line of work. The writer too has watched with some dismay, the viral description of the Sekar et al. … Continue reading →
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Toko-pa on listening with presence
The heart of person-centred… Beautiful artwork too. Palace Gate Counselling Service, Exeter Counselling in Exeter since 1994
Posted in communication, core conditions, empathy, encounter, interconnection & belonging, love, non-directive counselling, person centred, presence, relationship, Toko-pa
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‘Like a silkworm weaving’ Akka Mahadevi – the eclipse, shadow & growth by Ivan Granger
http://www.poetry-chaikhana.com/blog/2015/09/30/akka-mahadevi-like-a-silkworm-weaving/ Beautiful poem by Akka Mahadevi, and profound and beautifully expressed reflections by Ivan in the wake of September’s lunar eclipse. Here’s a taste:- ‘The thing about the dark parts of life and the dark parts of our own psyches … Continue reading →
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Drake Spaeth – Silence, Shunning, & Shying Away: Destroying Personhood & Connection Through Preserving the Peace
http://www.saybrook.edu/newexistentialists/posts/09-25-14 Click on the link for this interesting and useful article by Drake Spaeth, about how we can harm/diminish ourselves and others by keeping silent in relationship around difficult feeling and conflict. We especially liked:- ‘If I feel that parts of me … Continue reading →
Posted in acceptance, bullying, communication, conflict, congruence, Disconnection, Drake Spaeth, empowerment, fear, kindness & compassion, loneliness, perception, relationship, risk, Saybrook University, trust
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Shauna Shapiro: The IAA Model of Mindfulness
This is a worthwhile 10 minutes about the practice of mindfulness. It identifies three components: intention, attention, attitude. We think this is an extremely useful way of making sense of mindfulness, and picks up the key elements of presence in … Continue reading →
Posted in actualizing tendency, cognitive, consciousness, human condition, kindness & compassion, Mary Oliver, meditation, mindfulness, Monica Cassani, Shauna Shapiro, therapeutic growth
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Tagged attention, Beyond Meds, Emo Phillips, IAA mindfulness, intention, intention attention attitude, Jon Kabat Zinn, Mary Oliver, meditation, mindfulness, Monica Cassani, person-centred, Shauna Shapiro
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