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‘Like a silkworm weaving’ Akka Mahadevi – the eclipse, shadow & growth by Ivan Granger

Posted on October 19, 2015 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

http://www.poetry-chaikhana.com/blog/2015/09/30/akka-mahadevi-like-a-silkworm-weaving/ Beautiful poem by Akka Mahadevi, and profound and beautifully expressed reflections by Ivan in the wake of September’s lunar eclipse. Here’s a taste:- ‘The thing about the dark parts of life and the dark parts of our own psyches … Continue reading →

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How Societies with Little Coercion Have Little Mental Illness – Bruce Levine

Posted on August 22, 2015 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

http://brucelevine.net/how-societies-with-little-coercion-have-little-mental-illness/ ‘Coercion—the use of physical, legal, chemical, psychological, financial, and other forces to gain compliance—is intrinsic to our society’s employment, schooling, and parenting. However, coercion results in fear and resentment, which are fuels for miserable marriages, unhappy families, and what … Continue reading →

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Michael Eigen on learning to be with our scream

Posted on October 23, 2014 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

‘Just because one is a baby and stops screaming, it doesn’t mean that the scream goes away inside. There is a scream that goes on all life long no matter who we are or what we do. Some of us … Continue reading →

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Aggression and the Vigorous Snuggle: Rachel Schofield, Hand in Hand Parenting

Posted on August 30, 2014 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

http://www.handinhandparenting.org/article/handling-a-childs-aggression-setting-limits-with-vigorous-snuggle/ Click on the link for this ‘conscious parenting’ site, and an excellent article by Rachel Schofield on the meanings of aggression in children, and how to meet this as a parent in a way that will support you and … Continue reading →

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