Category Archives: growing up

Teacher Chen Miller on connecting with a distressed child

Click on the link to visit Facebook, for this remarkable little film about teacher, Chen Miller. A person-centred way of engaging with distress… Chen is bang on about what works – whatever our age may be. The words in which … Continue reading

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Guante ‘Ten Responses to the Phrase ‘Man up”

Click on the link above for Guante’s performance of his work on Button Poetry’s Facebook page. Aho. ‘Man up’ belongs in the ‘just don’t say it’ category…. Thanks, Guante, and also to Button Poetry and Angie Buchanan for posting this on Facebook … Continue reading

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Gender Equality in Iceland

Encouraging little film from ITV about the Icelandic approach to gender equality. It ends by commenting there is still a 14% pay gap – which recently led to Icelandic women leaving work 14% earlier than their male counterparts, to make … Continue reading

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Grayson Perry on Gendering & Cultural Pressures

Click on the link for this useful clip of Grayson Perry talking to Jon Snow on the extent to which gender and masculinity are culturally defined for children before they are even born. We notice at this service the huge … Continue reading

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Joy – David Whyte

David has dedicated this post today on his Facebook page to his daughter, who is beginning college. May all those venturing into the world, and those who love them, experience joy and aliveness. Here is the text, for those who … Continue reading

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Susan Peacock on Year 6 SATs

Powerful and distressing personal account of the harm caused by our toxic cultural obsession with an ‘evidence base’, and our drive to define value only in terms of what can be categorised and measured. Shades of Charles Dickens’ ‘Hard Times’, and Utilitarianism, … Continue reading

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‘maggie and milly and molly and may’ ee cummings

‘maggie and milly and molly and may went down to the beach (to play one day)   and maggie discovered a shell that sang so sweetly she couldn’t remember her troubles, and   milly befriended a stranded star whose rays … Continue reading

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Brené Brown on Living in the Questions

http://mariashriver.com/blog/2016/04/prime-book-brene-brown-courage-vulnerability-peter-freed/?utm_source=Current+Users&utm_campaign=6c8a4c7de2-April_8_Send_Out_4_8_2016&utm_medium=email&utm_term=0_53bf79976c-6c8a4c7de2-35203661&mc_cid=6c8a4c7de2&mc_eid=baf214491e Brené talking about what the maturation process has looked like for her… We agree – learning to live in the questions is also what we see unfolding in therapy. Palace Gate Counselling Service, Exeter Counselling in Exeter since 1994 … Continue reading

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Anne Lamott on Mother Rage

Great piece for….anyone who has parented in any form…. Especially if you carry shame about some aspects of how you have parented. Kindness begins with own being, and radiates outwards – and that requires we parent our own light and … Continue reading

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John Bradshaw on magical thinking

“Children are magical. “Step on a crack, break your mother’s back.” Magic is the belief that certain words, gestures, or behaviours can change reality. Dysfunctional parents often reinforce their children’s magical thinking. For example, if you tell children that their … Continue reading

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