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The thorn in my side – Anne Lamott

Posted on May 9, 2017 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

http://www.salon.com/2017/04/02/the-thorn-in-my-side-i-tried-to-let-go-of-my-poisonous-grudge-against-another-writer/ Click on the above link to visit http://www.salon.com for this excerpt from April from Anne’s new book ‘Hallelujah Anyway’. Interesting and open piece about resentment, self blame and moving on through…. Here’s the book link:- Palace Gate Counselling … Continue reading →

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Anne Lamott – Love is sovereign here

Posted on July 22, 2016 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

We have a bit of a theme this week around how helpfully to respond to the violence and craziness in our world, our fear and sense of powerlessness in the face of all that, and our own more difficult feelings. Follow … Continue reading →

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Anne Lamott on Mother Rage

Posted on March 24, 2016 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

Great piece for….anyone who has parented in any form…. Especially if you carry shame about some aspects of how you have parented. Kindness begins with own being, and radiates outwards – and that requires we parent our own light and … Continue reading →

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Anne Lamott on The New Year Diet

Posted on December 31, 2015 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

Characteristic humour and depth from Anne, on a seasonally relevant theme…. This touches on personal experience for me. I have experienced similar battles to Anne’s. In my past life, I regularly embarked on diets. I have also found more of value in deeper connection … Continue reading →

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Anne Lamott on the challenges (and grace) of being alive

Posted on November 1, 2015 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

‘Love and service are my business’ With humour, grace and gratitude. Thanks, Anne. Helpful reminders. Palace Gate Counselling Service, Exeter Counselling Exeter since 1994

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Anne Lamott on what we actually need to hear….

Posted on May 31, 2015 by Palace Gate Counselling Service

Well said. Often people come to this service who have been offered these pieces of advice or would-be comforting perceptions. They’ve heard them at home, from colleagues, on ‘inspirational’ sites, from a religious perspective, from therapists… this stuff pops up … Continue reading →

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