“I would say that the thrust of my life has been initially about getting free, and then realizing that my freedom is not independent of everybody else. Then I am arriving at that circle where one works on oneself as a gift to other people so that one doesn’t create more suffering. I help people as a work on myself and I work on myself to help people.”
This resonates with a conversation the writer had with someone recently. She was asked the question: ‘What do you think we are here for?’. Her answer could be summarized as: ‘To do our personal work, and then to radiate that outwards in service to all of life’. The key point being that personal work – in contrast to how it is often presented in our culture and in therapeutic circles – is not about the pursuit of personal happiness (although some of that may occur along the way). It is firstly a path into ways of relating that do not perpetuate and pass on earlier trauma, and secondly a path into service. And this is not so much a philosophy or creed or moral requirement, as what seems naturally and inherently to happen, as we move deeper into inhabiting ourselves…..
Palace Gate Counselling Service, Exeter
Counselling Exeter since 1994