Frederick Buechner on telling our secrets

“I have come to believe that by and large the human family all has the same secrets, which are both very telling and very important to tell. They are telling in the sense that they tell what is perhaps the central paradox of our condition—that what we hunger for perhaps more than anything else is to be known in our full humanness, and yet that is often just what we also fear more than anything else. It is important to tell at least from time to time the secret of who we truly and fully are—even if we tell it only to ourselves—because otherwise we run the risk of losing track of who we truly and fully are and little by little come to accept instead the highly edited version which we put forth in hope that the world will find it more acceptable than the real thing. It is important to tell our secrets too because it makes it easier that way to see where we have been in our lives and where we are going. It also makes it easier for other people to tell us a secret or two of their own, and exchanges like that have a lot to do with what being a family is all about and what being human is all about.” 

Frederick Buechner ‘Telling Secrets’

This beautifully captures the heart of therapy…. And touches on the importance of being witnessed – often we ‘tell it..to ourselves’ through the act of telling another….which is a magic that can happen only where we feel safe enough….

Palace Gate Counselling Service, Exeter

Counselling in Exeter since 1994

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