Monthly Archives: November 2015

The Ecology of Language – Abbie Simmonds

http://dark-mountain.net/blog/the-ecology-of-language/ Fascinating piece by Abbie, about the ways in which language holds and shapes (or can limit/reduce) meaning, personally, collectively, spiritually – and has the power to connect us with our embodied experiencing and with the land. She quotes Wade Davis:- … Continue reading

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The Sea in You – David Whyte

Beautiful. Palace Gate Counselling Service, Exeter Counselling Exeter since 1994

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Human

For the writer, this says all that is necessary. It illustrates what is (catastrophically) left out of account by the ‘perpetrator’/’victim’ binary mindset favoured in our cultures as they stand…. Thank you to Yaacov Darling Khan for posting this on Facebook, and … Continue reading

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Annie Dillard on what lies beneath

‘In the deeps are the violence and terror of which psychology has warned us. But if you ride these monsters deeper down, if you drop with them farther over the world’s rim, you find what our sciences cannot locate or … Continue reading

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Angel-A by Luc Besson

‘It’s difficult to love yourself when you cannot see your reflection.’ Beautiful piece with Rie Rasmussen and Jamel Debbouze, about how we need to (and how we learn to) see and love our own person. The context differs, but this … Continue reading

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Rainer Maria Rilke on Sadness

“It seems to me that almost all our sadnesses are moments of tension, which we feel as paralysis because we no longer hear our astonished emotions living. Because we are alone with the unfamiliar presence that has entered us; because … Continue reading

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How to prepare emotionally for the death of a difficult parent – Jeff Brown

http://soulshaping.com/soulshaping/difficult-parent/ Helpful piece, thanks Jeff. Palace Gate Counselling Service, Exeter Counselling Exeter since 1994

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Everything Doesn’t Happen For A Reason – Tim Lawrence

http://www.timjlawrence.com/blog/2015/10/19/everything-doesnt-happen-for-a-reason#st_refDomain=www.facebook.com&st_refQuery=/ Immensely useful piece on the importance of grieving, and the unhelpful violence of platitudes and imposed ‘positivity’. As Tim says, we have a deeply harmful cultural inability to speak the language of grief or offer what is most needed – loving … Continue reading

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John Bradshaw on the process of alienation

‘A child is born self-connected and has an organismic sense of wholeness with relation to each of its powers, drives, and needs. Once a power, drive, or need is shamed, it becomes disconnected. As the shaming continues and intensifies, the … Continue reading

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Nine Voices – Ian Adams

‘1 Always want to be right? Welcome the sudden down pour, catching you out.   2 If you need to be needed, walk in the wood; she needs no one, but loves.   3 When you must win at all … Continue reading

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