Monthly Archives: October 2015

Person-centred basics: expertise of the person-centred counsellor – Dave Mearns & Brian Thorne

The fourth in our occasional series of person-centred fundamentals. ‘The person-centred counsellor must learn to wear her expertise as an invisible garment in order to be an effective counsellor. Experts are expected to dispense their expertise, to recommend what should … Continue reading

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There is nothing wrong with you

http://beyondmeds.com/2014/07/06/there-is-nothing-wrong/ Very helpful post, as so often, from Monica Cassani’s rich collection of resources, links, articles and reflections: http://www.beyondmeds.com Monica’s body of work is invaluable to anyone engaging with what it is to be human, anyone working in our own … Continue reading

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Carl Rogers on remembering our humanity

“Before every session, I take a moment to remember my humanity. There is no experience that this man has that I cannot share with him, no fear that I cannot understand, no suffering that I cannot care about, because I … Continue reading

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‘Like a silkworm weaving’ Akka Mahadevi – the eclipse, shadow & growth by Ivan Granger

http://www.poetry-chaikhana.com/blog/2015/09/30/akka-mahadevi-like-a-silkworm-weaving/ Beautiful poem by Akka Mahadevi, and profound and beautifully expressed reflections by Ivan in the wake of September’s lunar eclipse. Here’s a taste:- ‘The thing about the dark parts of life and the dark parts of our own psyches … Continue reading

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Chelsea Fields on the decision to circumsize her baby son

The writer found it difficult to reach the end of this deeply moving personal account, because of the extent to which she was crying. There’s a quotation from James Hillman we tweeted the other day:- ‘..the question of evil….refers primarily … Continue reading

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David Whyte on Heartbreak

‘…heartbreak is not a visitation, but a path that human beings follow¬†through even the most average life…’ Beautiful, moving, elegiac reflections from David on the meaning and hidden treasures of heartbreak. The writer believes we have an unhelpful cultural tendency … Continue reading

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Jane Fonda on Life’s Third Act for TEDx Women

Interesting talk by Jane about how the ascension of the human spirit reverses entropy (the universal arc of deterioration and decay), and how moving into our ‘Elder’ years has the potential to bring us ‘into wholeness, authenticity and wisdom’. The … Continue reading

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