There is nothing wrong with you

Very helpful post, as so often, from Monica Cassani’s rich collection of resources, links, articles and reflections:

Monica’s body of work is invaluable to anyone engaging with what it is to be human, anyone working in our own field, or any other field where the focus is on the human experience and – perhaps above all – anyone seeking wisdom, experience and balanced information on psychiatric drug-taking, withdrawal, recovery and iatrogenic illness.

Alan Watts is a regular feature on these pages, and the writer too values Cheri Huber’s work. Here’s Alan’s quote from this piece, which catches the theme here:-

‘What I am really saying is that you don’t need to do anything, because if you see yourself in the correct way, you are all as much extraordinary phenomena of nature as trees, clouds, the patterns in running water, the flickering of fire, the arrangement of the stars, and the form of a galaxy. You are all just like that, and there is nothing wrong with you at all.’

For those of us who find it hard to experience this with any consistency, or at all, the meaning arises in how we see ourselves… Cheri makes the vital points:-

‘….you have been unable to fix yourself because there is nothing wrong with you, but there is quite a lot wrong with what you have been taught to believe about yourself and about life.’


‘The reason acceptance isn’t more popular is that in acceptance, there is nothing to do. In acceptance, there is nothing ‘wrong’ that needs to be changed, fixed, worked on or otherwise improved. And the simple, astounding, mind-bogglingly amazing fact is that as soon as you accept yourself exactly as you are, all of those ‘character flaws’ begin to fall away because those ‘flaws’ exist only in non-acceptance, in self-hate.’

Yes, quite. That is the journey those who come to this service tend to be making, and of course it is the heart song of person-centred:-

“The curious paradox is that when I accept myself just as I am, then I can change.”

Carl Rogers

Palace Gate Counselling Service, Exeter

Counselling Exeter since 1994

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