http://www.elephantjournal.com/2014/11/the-real-reason-we-dig-ourselves-into-holes/
Click on the link for this profound and hopeful post in Elephant Journal by Fae Leslie, about the pit, what trauma was for her, and about not feeling safe in her body.
One of the things we often find ourselves working on with people in this service is a perception that they are somehow not entitled to their feelings or their responses to difficult experience – either in comparison with others, or in comparison with some imagined standard of painfulness they feel they have not met. Ultimately they tend to come to Fae’s realization – we feel what we feel, be that clear and open to us, or hidden in unawareness in our bodies. Where we can work with what’s there – as it is – and surrender ideas about entitlement, then we can begin to heal.
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